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23 June 2011 11:03![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
abilouiseSo something changed this week and things are shaking loose, things are moving. I have faith in my decision to take on being part of The Meeting Point, which I didn't have a week ago. Sometimes things just need to wait to become clear, and they might get murky or muddy again before they truly make sense, and that is part of things, I think.
I have been taking a self-defense course through IMPACT Boston, and that is a huge part of my clarity and strength. Along with learning how to physically defend myself to the point of taking down an attacker, I have also learned such useful skills as "5 Steps for articulating what you want"
1. Breathe
2. Identify what is actually happening (focus on behavior and actions, not on labelling other people)
3. Identify what your feelings are about this.
4. Figure out what you need.
5. Articulate #2-4.
(Bonus #6: Notice how the other person responds to your expression of a boundary or need. This may help clue you in to this person's trustworthiness towards you.)
I have been taking a self-defense course through IMPACT Boston, and that is a huge part of my clarity and strength. Along with learning how to physically defend myself to the point of taking down an attacker, I have also learned such useful skills as "5 Steps for articulating what you want"
1. Breathe
2. Identify what is actually happening (focus on behavior and actions, not on labelling other people)
3. Identify what your feelings are about this.
4. Figure out what you need.
5. Articulate #2-4.
(Bonus #6: Notice how the other person responds to your expression of a boundary or need. This may help clue you in to this person's trustworthiness towards you.)