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abilouiseSeveral things I have only figured out embarrassingly recently:
- In order to get to know other people well, spend time with them. Make sure this time includes space to talk.
- Nobody knows what you like or what you spend your time thinking about unless it is directly observable or you tell them.
- Nobody knows what I need better than I do.
- If I don't tell someone that their behavior bugs me, they will never learn this fact.
- Things that I want to happen generally need to be done by me.
- I enjoy most activities once I am doing them, but I do not get anticipatory joy from hardly anything. This includes things commonly considered fun as well as things commonly considered drudgery.
- A good way for other people to know about my human limitations, problems, weaknesses, etc is to actually admit to them.
- If people will pay $70 for an hour of my work and then do it a second time, I must not be bad at what I do and maybe I can relax about that juuuuuust a little bit.
- The amount of time in a day is finite.
- Doing things the same way every time you do them makes life easier because you don't have to think as hard and you can fine-tune the process of doing it until it is EXACTLY PERFECT.
I am embarrassed to say these things, except that they keep hitting me like great flashes of white light and enlightenment and then only about a minute AFTERWARDS to I realize how obvious they are.
- In order to get to know other people well, spend time with them. Make sure this time includes space to talk.
- Nobody knows what you like or what you spend your time thinking about unless it is directly observable or you tell them.
- Nobody knows what I need better than I do.
- If I don't tell someone that their behavior bugs me, they will never learn this fact.
- Things that I want to happen generally need to be done by me.
- I enjoy most activities once I am doing them, but I do not get anticipatory joy from hardly anything. This includes things commonly considered fun as well as things commonly considered drudgery.
- A good way for other people to know about my human limitations, problems, weaknesses, etc is to actually admit to them.
- If people will pay $70 for an hour of my work and then do it a second time, I must not be bad at what I do and maybe I can relax about that juuuuuust a little bit.
- The amount of time in a day is finite.
- Doing things the same way every time you do them makes life easier because you don't have to think as hard and you can fine-tune the process of doing it until it is EXACTLY PERFECT.
I am embarrassed to say these things, except that they keep hitting me like great flashes of white light and enlightenment and then only about a minute AFTERWARDS to I realize how obvious they are.